When your Reality does not meet your Expectation …


And how often does that happen? No… don’t tell me. I am the only one this ever happens to… I’m the only one whose reality sometimes does not meet my expectation …

Just teasing. Of course it happens to all of us. Whether little things like the taste of food that you prepared or big things like how life just didn’t turn out the way you planned, it happens to all of us somewhere along the way.

If I were totally honest with myself, I would say that I experience this pretty often.

When my reality doesn’t meet my expectation, I must choose how I will respond.

1. I can choose a totally emotional response, like anger, sadness, frustration, hurt or disappointment. I can gripe, moan, and complain until I am blue in the face (or in my spirit) or until I drive my friends and family crazy … but where would that get me?

2. I can choose to look at the situation analytically, trying to figure out the why this happened and what I could have done differently to affect the outcome. I can chalk this up to experience and try to do things better “the next time around.”

3. I can choose to look at the situation in a “glass half full” kind of way, being very positive and sure that this outcome is going to benefit me. I can expound on this to everyone around me (or not), all the while convincing myself that everything will turn out ok.

4. I can simply rest in God. I can share my feelings with Him because He loves me and He wants that intimate relationship with me. After sharing with Him, I can simply acknowledge that He us with me, guiding and guarding me, directing my path. I will continue to seek Him first. I will remember His work in my life before this season, providing reassurance and confidence in this journey. I will share as He directs but only as He directs.

In reality, these are probably my stages of response to my reality not meeting my expectation. As I experience Him more, I spend less time in 1-3, and more time in 4, acknowledging, praising and thanking Him.

Because if this, I smile more, talk less, and sleep better.

Because of this, unexpected outcomes do not carry the same negative effect on me as they once did. They don’t paralyze me any more. They don’t cause bitterness as they would have in my past. Goodness, that root of bitterness can destroy you and your relationships if you let it get started. Don’t let it get hold of you. Recognize it, pull it up, and throw it out of your heart and mind!

My life is in His hands. That’s just where I want it… in the hands of an all knowing, all powerful, ever present God. I gladly turn over the reins….

Remember, “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭16:9‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Just some food for thought,